When I see people, I see a mixture of light and darkness within them. Some people will look at the darkness, some will look at the light and some will look at both.
I don't believe in seeing the bad in people. Any bit of light I can see, is still light. But sometimes people want to accept the darkness they believe is in them self. They want to believe that they are the worst human being there ever was. It is a sad sight to see when those who you love and see greatness in, see themselves as worthless and disappointing. They choose to see all the bad parts of them self, all the darkness. When we choose to do this it affects our self image and even our view of the world. I got coffee poured on me because I missed my normal train because I had to straighten my hair because I took a late shower because Im stupid and I forgot to set my alarm to wake up earlier. We have to mentally make the choice to be positive. To put a smile on. Even if it is fake. Fake it until you make it. Because your smile could brighten someone else's day. Life is just a bunch of checks and balances, Light and Darkness needing to be evened out and centered within yourself.
Let people see the light in you, and let them acknowledge it. Don't put your downfalls and fears ahead of your happiness and joy. That will stunt your growth. And I am not saying to never see and take care of your darkness, because even the weeds of life need to be pulled out, but accept your flaws. We as humans are flawed creatures to feed on the approval of others. When sometimes we just need to approve of ourselves.
Be light. Be dark. But whatever you are, just love yourself.