Life throws you curve balls from time to time. And we have to choose how to accept the fate given and how we are going to react to it. Most of the time, it is a painful truth. We have to accept that we are mistaken, misunderstood and even misguided. When we don't do this we place others in harms way by means of self indulgence. We choose to indulge the 'fact' that we are these perfect people that make no mistakes. Then put other people down in any way possible for being honest and telling us about our faults. Hurting the people we care about in the long run. And also hurting ourselves. By not accepting the truth we know in out hearts is true, we stunt our personal growth in life for who knows how long. It is important to grow in a way that will develop our own self worth and be respectful to the self worth of everyone around us. Personally I have been on the bad end of someone's self indulgence; it is not fun. It hurts for someone to just not care about who you are and where you are in life. So I encourage everyone to try and see and accept the fates around us. Be open to change and to the possibilities that the future could hold if we learn to stop the abuse of self and think of others.
People will always come and go. Sometimes you have to learn to accept those who choose to walk away. And sometimes you have to be that person who walks away. Sometimes it's for yourself, you need to get away from the human condition, be different, or silent. But what is better than that is when people understand who you are as a person and can let you walk away, but still be there for you always. It is just amazing to have a friend who gets that and accepts you. And still wants to be in your life after you go through the funks of life. Today I had someone do this for me and I can honestly say it made my day better than I could imagine. I walked away from him because I was dealing with a personal crush and I didn't want to put him in the middle of it. He texted me today and it was just great that he didn't hold it against me and hate me for pushing him away. I just am happy that I have people in my life like that. It's surprising how fast your heart can fall for someone sometimes. Not in an emotional "I love you" way, but in an attachment and exciting way. It's a new journey that you are starting and it's fresh new and nothing can tarnish that. Or take it away from you. I had the pleasure this past week to go on a blind double date. Honestly I didn't even know I was going on a date when the day started. My friend Brittany and I were supposed to just be going to Disney just the two of us. But then she told me his guy she liked, Brad, and his friend were going to be at the parks and we might meet up with them for a park and then go do our own thing. And she just wanted me to wingman for her. But then she was hinting at the fact that I might like the other guy, Mike. And at that point I new something was up. And after about 20 minutes I knew we were going to be spending the whole day with the boys. And me being my awkward self, I didn't really talk to Mike much, but apparently he is super shy so he didn't talk much either. And it wasn't like an awkward non-talking time. It was comfortable. And we would all talk as a group so I still got a feel for his personality and who he was. And I was interested. At one point, when we were at Animal Kingdom, an employee was messing around with Mike and told him his sock was untied and it was just so presh and weird be cause his response was just so me. And I couldn't help but laugh because this kid was the male version of myself pretty much. Over all it was a really great day. I hadn't been on a real date in a long time. So I was hoping he would ask for my number, but I figured he would be too shy to. So I just added him on Facebook. Sometimes you just don't know how things are going to turn out, you could think you are going on a girls trip to Disney and the next your little heart is just dropped on the floor because of the feels. So you just have to be ready for any journey. |
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March 2017
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